The great misuse of sexuality and gender

Recently on Big Brother there has been an housemate who labels herself as “Polyamorous”.  I have absolutely no issues with someone labelling themselves as Polyamorous, as long as they fully understand what they are labelling themselves as.  The fact that she refers to it as “polyamorousy” rather than polyamory shows just how ignorant she is […]

Abusing the abused

It has been a LONG time since I have the time, space and mental energy to be able to write.  It’s the thing that I have to keep myself on a level and the first thing to indicate if my head is not in a very good place.  Once it’s established that one of these […]

A question of sex: the driving force

I have been through many different stages in my life: times where I have had no drive whatsoever, times where I have had what seems to be a regular level of drive and times where I have been climbing the wall like some kind of nymphomaniac.  There are definitely hormonal and mental angles to it […]

A question of sex: the debate of size

Size is one of those contentious issues when discussing sex.  It’s something that people take personally, regardless of their gender or the circumstances that it’s discussed.  People often think that the only relevance of size is the male‘s role but 2 pieces fitting together means that both parts have a certain contribution to be made […]

A question of sex: the oral chronicles

I’ve just read a blog entry that was posted on the thought catalogue about how long is too long where blow jobs are concerned.  It was awesome, very well written and made me think A LOT!  I often ponder sex: my experiences, the differences between partners, how people react differently to others and whether your […]

Banana surprise

It’s been ages since I’ve blogged.  I think about it often and I’ve missed the cleansing I feel from it, but I have just been so exhausted that finding the time to put my events into words has just been non-existent.  It’s been really nice to see that even though I’ve not been writing anything […]

Pointless taboos

I just got a text from my husband.  This man is 41 years old and still seems to be incapable of using the word ‘sex’.  How can this be possible?  It got me thinking about how many people in our society who have issues talking or even thinking about everyday things.  Take masturbation, for example, […]

The evolution of friendship or other

One thing I find utterly fascinating is the way that the relationships we have with different people evolve.  It’s inevitable that as time goes on you are likely to change as a person, as is the other in the equation, and because of this it means that the relationship you have has to also evolve […]

The dark side has a twist

Recently i found myself revisiting a stage of my life, in my mind, while I was blogging it on here.  It’s something that I don’t think of very often but something that has come into conversation quite a few times over the years since.  On here I am quite respectful about things being very anonymous […]